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NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

This book was designed with the person in mind who has a real desire to build a happier, more successful life. Who would like to reach new heights, wants to become his best, and who is interested in doing a little each day to become all he can be.

Take your time. After reading each page, stop to ponder what you have read. Visualize yourself exhibiting that particular characteristic in your daily affairs. As you do this, your creative abilities will provide ways that you personally can develop your own plan for success in whatever area you choose. This is your subconscious mind working to help you accomplish your desires. Give your subconscious a chance to help you. Since you become a product of your most dominating thoughts, keep the concepts you are working on foremost in your mind. That which is most easily visualized will be where you will have the most success. I suggest you start with those ideas first.

As you read this book you will find ideas that will stir you to immediate action. Others will not fit in your life today. Use the ideas presented here as building blocks in your life, building qualities, block by block, to make you the complete you. Work particularly with those concepts that will shape you into what you want to become.

Use this book as a reference for success, choosing the new, progressive habits you will introduce into your life. Work on those ideas that are relevant to your present needs and situation. When times change, you will too. Take time to refer to the titles again and again, choosing new areas that interest you and work the newly chosen behavior into your life.
                                                     
Study each concept with an open and creative mind, always trying to think of ways you might incorporate it into your life. As you work on these goals, you will become a little happier and a little more successful each day, making you a whole lot happier and a whole lot more successful as time goes on. Keep moving forward! Never give up! Remember, even the slightest progress is worth celebrating!

Good luck!

Sam Spencer

 

INTRODUCTION

What a smorgasbord of opportunity life offers you, with so many avenues to choose from to direct your life. That's what makes life so exciting and fulfilling. You decide what you will do with your life. You decide how far you will go. You decide the characteristics, the traits, the things you will allow to influence your life to create your own unique individuality.

That is why I've written this book. I believe life is available to us in bite size pieces. You take the bite size pieces, develop them, and allow them to become a part of your life. You decide which pieces you will put on your own table, you even decide which bites you will take and which you will leave untouched. So piece by piece, step by step, you are literally becoming the product of all your every action.

How exciting! You and only you make the final choices. So many people allow others to make their choices, to rule their lives, to decide how they will feel, becoming intimidated to act in a certain way. Peer pressure becomes a factor in daily decisions: the clothes people wear, the places they go even the cars people drive. People worry what others think about them, "Am I good enough?” "Do I impress them favorably?"

Don't allow others to control your life. When you set a goal or make a choice, make certain that it is your choice, and that it is a good decision.

You can become whatever you would like to be; if you have sufficient desire, acting on those things that will lead  you to become that type of individual. Hence, life must be taken in "Bite Size Pieces.” You have a lifetime to form this unique creation of self. Make it the best you can. Create your own masterpiece.

 

THE MASTER SCULPTOR

I have a friend who is a sculptor. He demonstrated to me the way he created a bronze masterpiece. The first step was to envision what he was about to create. At times he would draw it on a piece of paper to preserve his idea, other times he would use a photo or postcard. Next he molded a piece of clay into the piece he wanted to create, carving and tooling with great detail. The clay model was then ready to have a mold made of it, soon to yield a bronze statue. The statue, however, was still rough with voids and imperfections.

After the bronze statue was pulled from the mold there was still an abundance of work left to be done to make it a great piece of art. The master then began to fill in the voids which the casting did not fill. Other areas had ridges from the mold which needed some fine grinding and delicate tooling. He sculpted until it was perfect. Every detail perfected, every flaw corrected and after many painstaking hours of dedicated and skillful effort the masterpiece was finished.

You are the master sculptor of your own life. You first decide what you will become. You may write this down on paper. You may leave the image of it in your own mind, but you decide what you will create. You begin to model and mold that which you envision, you may even try various avenues to see which fits you best. Choose and plan carefully. Remember, this is you that you are working on. Then, finally, after many years of dedication and hard work you have become a great masterpiece -- a legacy of your life.

 

101 Thoughtful Nuggets
For A Happier More Successful Life

#1       LEARN TO LISTEN

#2       BE ON TIME

#3        WORK ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT          

#4       GIVE FIVE MINUTES MORE

#5       DON'T PROCEED TO THE NEXT STEP BEFORE
COMPLETING THE STEP YOU ARE ON

#6       SMILE AT OTHERS

#7       SING IN THE SHOWER

#8       HUG SOMEONE EACH DAY

#9       ELIMINATE INTEREST CHARGES

#10     EXERCISE REGULARLY

#11     EAT A GOOD DIET

#12     ELIMINATE JEALOUSY

#13     GIVE AN HONEST EFFORT

#14     BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING

#15     APPRECIATE EVEN SMALL GROWTH

#16     DON'T BE AFRAID TO CHANGE LANES

#17     MAKE EACH DAY A GOOD DAY

#18     REMEMBER YOUR FAULTS BEFORE YOU
BECOME ANGRY WITH OTHERS

#19     TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY THAT THEY WANT
            TO BE TREATED

#20     LET GO OF GUILT - QUIT FEELING GUILTY

#21     CONFER WITH OTHERS

#22     HAVE A QUIET PLACE

#23     FORGET THE PAST AND LOOK TOWARD THE
            FUTURE

#24     CARRY A SPARE TIRE

#25     THINK OF YOUR TANK AS HALF FULL

#26     WATCH YOURSELF PERFORM YOUR TASK

#27     LISTEN TO YOURSELF SPEAK TO OTHERS

#28     KNOW  WHEN TO BACK UP

#29     CONTROL YOUR ENVIRONMENT

#30     SHAKE HANDS FIRMLY - LOOK THE OTHER
            PERSON IN THE EYE

#31     ONLY JUDGE YOURSELF AGAINST YOURSELF

#32     ADVERSITY IS THE BEST WAY TO GROW

#33     HAVE A MENTOR - IDOL - SOMEONE YOU CAN
            LEARN FROM

#34     KEEP YOUR LIFE SIMPLE

#35     CREATE GOOD HABITS TO REPLACE BAD
            HABITS

#36     ANALYZE THE NEXT STEP

#37     STOP SAYING "I CAN'T" AND START SAYING
            "HOW CAN I?"

#38     THINK YOUR PROJECT THROUGH AND ACT IT
            OUT

#39     ACT, DON'T RE-ACT

#40     ALWAYS BE WILLING TO LEARN

#41     REALIZE THAT OTHERS DON'T HAVE THE
            SAME PERSPECTIVE YOU DO

#42     PLAN AND PRACTICE YOUR RESPONSE AND
SKILLS

#43     LEARN TO GOVERN YOURSELF

#44     IF YOU CANNOT DEPEND UPON YOURSELF,
            CAN OTHERS?

#45     ALL CHANGE COMES FROM WITHIN

#46     REALIZE YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR
DESTINY

#47     STAND AND FACE YOUR PROBLEMS

#48     TAKE THE INITIATIVE - JUST DO IT!

#49     LOOK FOR NEW IDEAS AND NEW
OPPORTUNITIES

#50     GAIN AND CREATE WORTHWHILE
            EXPERIENCES

#51     LOOK FOR THE LESSON IN YOUR LIFE'S
EXPERIENCE

#52     HELP OTHERS OBTAIN THEIR GOALS

#53     ASK A LOT OF QUESTIONS

#54     GAIN BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE

#55     NEVER QUIT - REALIGN - CHANGE DEADLINES
- CHANGE FOCUS

#56     LEARN TO ACCEPT ALL PEOPLE

#57     LOOK FOR SOMETHING GOOD IN EVERYONE

#58     SAY SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT OTHERS

#59     DON'T PRE-JUDGE

#60     FORMULATE AN HONORABLE REASON WHY
            THEY ACTED AS THEY DID

#61     SAY "HELLO" TO STRANGERS

#62     BE COURTEOUS TO OTHERS

#63     REWARD YOURSELF

#64     TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

#65     RECOGNIZE THAT PROBLEMS ARE A PART OF
LIFE - USE THEM TO GROW

#66     SLEEP ON IT AND LET THE SUBCONSCIOUS
CREATE

#67     RECOGNIZE THE CONTRIBUTIONS OF OTHERS
IN YOUR LIFE

#68     TAKE TIME TO SMELL THE ROSES

#69     TRY TO HAVE FUN

#70     ASK YOURSELF, "WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO BE
DOING HERE AND NOW?"

#71     ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE - LEARN FROM
            THE NEGATIVE

#72     ACT AND DRESS AS THE SITUATION REQUIRES

#73     DON'T SPEND IT UNTIL YOU HAVE EARNED IT

#74     PREPARE AND PLAN FOR PITFALLS

#75     TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO ASK "WHAT HAVE
            I LEARNED FROM THIS SITUATION?"

#76     SING AND LISTEN TO "FEEL GOOD" SONGS

#77     DON'T QUARREL WITH OTHERS

#78     HAVE A PLAN FOR EACH DAY, WEEK, MONTH,
            YEAR

#79     DO HARD THINGS FIRST

#80     GIVE FIVE MINUTES MORE

#81     LEARN TO SAY GOOD-BYE

#82     INVOLVE OTHERS TO REACH YOUR GOALS

#83     GIVE DAILY AFFIRMATIONS TO THOSE YOU
LIVE WITH

#84     VISUALIZE SUCCESS

#85     LIVE WITH LESS THAN PERFECTION

#86     RECOGNIZE YOU CAN'T SAVE THE WORLD

#87     STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE

#88     USE SELF TALK - GIVE YOURSELF DAILY
AFFIRMATIONS

#89     HELP OTHERS SAVE FACE

#90     DON'T LOSE SIGHT OF YOUR OBJECTIVE

#91     LEARN SOMETHING NEW EACH DAY

#92     START EARLY IN THE MORNING

#93     LIVE YOUR DREAMS TODAY

#94     WORK HARDER AND SMARTER

#95     HELP MAKE OTHERS COMFORTABLE

#96     RECOGNIZE THAT THERE ARE SEVERAL WAYS
TO ACHIEVE THE SAME RESULTS

#97     DON'T DWELL ON WHAT DIDN'T WORK

#98     LOOK IN THE MIRROR EACH DAY AND
PRACTICE BEING NICE

#99     BE A PROBLEM SOLVER

#100   STOP SAYING "POOR ME" AND SAY "RICH ME"

#101   GIVE YOURSELF THE RESPECT YOU DESERVE

 

#28     KNOW WHEN TO BACK UP

In the pursuit of your goals you sometimes find yourself stuck in what seems to be a dead end or you may be going in circles. Step back, study it again. You might need to back-up!

When I was 18, my friend and I were hunting rabbits in the desert. We were driving an old station wagon that I am sure my father let us use because he remembered being a boy once, too. We would get stuck in the sand and then dig and push our way out. On this occasion we were stuck in the wash below the road working our way back to the road. We would line the path of the wheels with branches and one of us pushed while the other drove. We struggled for over an hour.

Finally after much effort we were only within five feet of the road. The going was very difficult and slow. Just then two cowboys, hats, boots and pick-up truck, from New Mexico State University drove up and asked if we needed help. Excitedly, we invited them to assist us. I had a quick vision of them pulling out a chain or rope and pulling us out. One fellow climbed into the driver’s seat of our car, threw it into reverse, and backed down to the bottom again. Before I had time to yell and get angry he gunned the motor, threw it into drive and with new momentum, picked a new path and shot through the sand up to the road.

How many times have you lost your momentum, and you are stuck, inching along doing the same old thing. Stop! Look the situation over, back-up and get increased momentum, perhaps choose a new direction, but don't give up on your goal.


NUGGETS FOR THE MIND . . .

"When ever I arrive at a dead end, I back up and try a new road."
 --Sam Spencer

"If at first you don't succeed, start over!"
 --Author Unknown

"Happiness is not a reward--it is a consequence. Suffering is not a punishment-- it is a result."
 --Robert Green Ingersoll

"When you reach a turning point in life--TURN"
 --Sam Spencer

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
 --Harriet Beecher Stowe

“Continue to do the same old thing, and you’ll continue to end up at the same old place. You’ll never do better! And finally, one morning, you’ll wake up, and find, you’re out of the race!”
 --Sam Spencer

 

#69     TRY TO HAVE FUN

You can either enjoy what you have to do, you can hate it or something in between. You will decide which.

One day one of my daughters came to me and said, "Daddy, play Barbies with me, it'll be fun.” Although I was busy, I sensed she needed some of my time. I consented. She began to lay out the rules, "Dad you be Ken because you're the man. Here, you can dress him. Do you want to go on a picnic or to the movies? You drive.” The instructions kept coming. Many times I had watched the girls go through this sacred ritual. I knew my part well and performed it to perfection but with the reluctance of most males, (I was Ken).

She then said, "Come on dad, just try to have fun!” My mind had been on the many other things I felt I should be doing. She recognized that I wasn't having fun. Then I decided that I needed to change my attitude and try to have fun. Within minutes, I was having fun! What did I learn? Something I already knew. If you are going to be doing something anyway, why not have fun doing it. It's all in your attitude.

As you run into daily tasks that you just don't enjoy, find something you like about your task. Nobody is telling you, except yourself, to dislike what you are doing. Find some kind of game or strategy to help you like what you are doing or just think how good you will feel when you are completed. Sing a song or listen to music you like. When you are having fun your day will go faster and you will have a better attitude. So -- "Just try to have fun!"


NUGGETS FOR THE MIND . . .

"The happiness of every country depends upon the character of its people, rather than the form of its government."
 --Thomas Chandler Haliburton

"I never did a days' work in my life ‑‑ it was all fun."
 --Thomas A. Edison

"Nothing is more fun than to have a little more to do than you get through with.
 --William Wrighley

"Our Creator would never have made such lovely days, and have given us the deep hearts to enjoy them, above and beyond all thought, unless we were meant to be immortal."
 --Nathaniel Hawthorne

"Seek not, my soul, the life of the immortals; but enjoy to the full the resources that are within thy reach."
 --Pindar

"How little we should enjoy life if we never flattered ourselves."
 --Duc de La Rochefoucauld

 

#96     RECOGNIZE THERE ARE SEVERAL WAYS TO
ACHIEVE THE SAME RESULTS

There are many avenues to achieve the goal. Some may choose paths different from you. That is okay! When I finally grasped this concept, my life and relationships really became simpler. In a problem solving workshop to illustrate this point, I had everyone form into small groups of 4 or 5. Each group was given a United States Map. They were told they were to leave Salt Lake City and travel to Washington DC. They had 3 weeks to get there, and had to travel at least 50 miles each day. The task was to come to a consensus on the route and the places to see along the way. 20 minutes was allotted to do this.

Each group took different routes, visited different sights, but they all arrived at Washington DC on time. Could this example apply to your life? How many ways are there to do the right thing? How many roads "lead to Rome?"

One day I needed a prototype built of a new product I had designed. With no time to build it myself, I asked my top employee to accept the challenge. After a complete explanation he took my drawings and went to work. In time he returned, prototype in hand, exactly as I had envisioned the product. He reviewed his production procedure with me -- not exactly the way I would have done it, but had achieved the desired results. That’s OK!

I learned that when you let others follow the path they are most comfortable with, you both win. The more you can accept the path others have chosen to achieve success, the more success you both will enjoy.


NUGGETS FOR THE MIND . . .

"It were not best that we should all think alike; it is difference of opinion that makes horse‑races."
 --Mark Twain

"The difference between a neurotic, a psychotic, and a psychiatrist. The neurotic builds castles in the sky, the psychotic lives in them and the psychiatrist collects the rent."
 --Author Unknown

"In proportion as our own mind is enlarged we discover a greater number of men of originality. Commonplace people see no difference between one man and another."
 --Pascal

"There are many truths of which the full meaning cannot be realized until personal experience has brought it home."
 --John Stuart Mill

"Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity"
 --Author Unknown

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